Family Health & Wellness Marriage Parenting Romance


February 3, 2018

First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage…

My husband and I have been married for almost four years. For so long, we were that annoying couple that never fought and seemed to be in the honeymoon phase forever. This last year has been life-changing for the both of us. We recently had our first child, baby boy Axel, and it has been wonderful and also a lot of change.

I wrote a post a few months ago about how having a child impacted our marriage. I am happy to say that we have come a long way since then and we are starting to become a really great team. Before we had a child, we had stereotypical gender roles going on in our house and separate checking accounts – and it worked just fine. When you have a child, every aspect of your life changes so we had to reset the expectations and get on the same page. Communication is KEY!

Then Comes Baby…

Having a child has been life changing. It has helped us become better communicators and even stronger in our relationship. I was experiencing some signs of postpartum depression and anxiety and finally admitted I needed some help. I didn’t want to admit that – I wanted to be the super mom that my mom was and still is. Invincible, always going way above and beyond, making sure everyone was taken care of, just “Mamazing”. But I didn’t feel like that person. I felt very tired and anxious. I felt like I had this new never-ending to do list and when was I supposed to have time to just relax and enjoy some playtime with baby boy? I finally got the help I needed from my doctor and I was honest with my husband. I finally asked for more help and he was very receptive. He didn’t mind at all and it felt like I should have just asked him for more help sooner – so silly!

Today, all the baby responsibilities are shared. We divvy up bath time, washing bottles, changing diapers – all that good stuff. We play with baby Axel TOGETHER. For weeks we were doing almost a baton hand-off style of parenting. One of us would watch the baby and the other would scurry around trying to get chores done and then we would switch off. It was just not enjoyable and even though we live/commute/work together – I felt like I hardly spent any time with my husband. I missed him and he missed me – which made us argue, again – so silly. He felt more like my roommate then my husband. We have come to a point where we prioritize relaxing and playing with the baby together. This way, we can visit with each other, talk about our work day and laugh at all the silly new things Axel is doing! I know we will need to adapt once again if we add another baby to the mix, but we will cross that bridge when we get to it 😊

A Little Extra Effort Goes a Long Way…

I always heard people talk about how marriage and relationships can be hard and “take work”. My first few married years with Andrew felt so easy – almost too good to be true. I never knew what people meant by that until we had a child. It does take some “work” or extra effort to be intentional about showing your spouse you care. When I am so exhausted from working full time and my new 24/7 Mama gig, when do I have time to give my husband some much-needed affection?

I do a lot of the night shift stuff with the baby because it’s easier for me to just conviently nurse him. One night as I was crawling back into bed after I laid the baby back in the crib, my husband rolled over and put his hand on my back and said, “Good job Mama.” Such a simple thing but it meant the world to me. And I told him that the next day! I told him how good those simple words made me feel.

After we agreed that we were starting to feel more like roommates, I knew that I needed to change things otherwise we were going to be one of those couples that just lived separate lives in the same house. I started thinking of small ways of showing Andrew I cared for him. My list consisted of packing him good snacks and lunches for work, making him a hot breakfast every once in a while, rubbing his shoulders, and simply giving him a hug. Those little things make a huge difference. Once your spouse sees that even though you are tired, you are still putting forth effort – they want to reciprocate! I was also brainstorming of thoughtful gift ideas. Something that really showed him I was thinking of him. Keep reading and I’ll tell you what I came up with!

The Things That Make My Husband Unique Are The Things I Appreciate Most

One thing that my husband and I love to do together is watch a good show or movie when baby goes to bed. It is a great way to wind down for the evening and we can usually find something good that we both want to watch. We recently watched the Netflix series, Atypical. It’s a great comedy about a young man with autism who is trying to make his way through life. He is high functioning (has a good tech job, does well in school and has a girlfriend). As I was watching the show, I couldn’t help but notice so many similarities between the main character and my husband. What gave me more goosebumps is when he gets a girlfriend who is bubbly, talkative and a bit quirky – just like me!

I never intended to bring it up but my husband turned to me during one of the episodes and said, “oh my gosh, do I have autism?!” He said it with a slight chuckle and I just chuckled back because I didn’t know enough about it to answer. Days after we finished the series I couldn’t stop thinking about it and started researching. I ended up finding a credible quiz online to help diagnose these traits in adults. He agreed to take it and scored within the range of strong signs of autistic traits or asperbergers. Here are some of the signs or traits that my husband shows from the autism spectrum:

  • OCD – very detailed and meticulous about maintenance/cleaning
  • Gifted – very smart! Can fix or solve most issues in such a creative way!
  • Fascinated by facts more so than people/feelings
  • Mild sensory issues with noise
  • Avoids social settings

So, what does this mean for us? Not much because, in my opinion, there is nothing to “fix”. I view it more as something to be aware of and understand. Sure, there are times where my husband’s honesty can come across as rude to people that don’t know him but as far as our relationship goes – we’re going strong and we make a good team! It’s true – opposites attract! If anything, learning this about him has helped me to better understand how he operates and what I can do to be the best support for him.

My husband sometimes feels discouraged by these traits and his behavior. His OCD when it comes to cleaning and details sometimes even annoys him. He sometimes feels like most people don’t understand him or want to listen to him. He is smart ways of doing things and offers advice but people sometimes mistake this for being arrogant or condescending, even when he has the best intentions. There are times when he will make comments when I am cleaning something a certain way. His comments are honest advice but I explain to him how it can hurt my feelings at times. He has come a long way and I have told him that if he isn’t sure how somebody is going to take his comment or advice to just consider keeping it to himself.

These traits have impacted our relationship in many ways. I am spontaneous and easy-going. I can “go-with-the-flow” and make the best out of situations. Andrew needs to have a plan and know all the details. And when I say have a plan, I mean like – if we are going to go out to dinner, he wants to know about a week in advance, make a reservation (when it’s the least busy), look up where to park and the best route to get there. So with the two of us being so different in that regard, it has taken some compromising on both ends.

The only thing that bugs me about his traits are that he sometimes feels discouraged and like an outcast. It makes me sad when he asks, “is there something wrong with me? or when he says, “I hope our son is more like you.” I don’t want him to think that way. I want to live himself for who he is as much as I love him. If you are reading this and you know someone with similar traits, please share anything you know that can help! This is new territory for us and we are learning by research and meeting with a specialist. My ultimate goal is that Andrew accepts himself for who he is and is happy.

A Unique Gift for a Unique Person

So, of course, this Valentine’s day I needed to get something as unique as my unique, lumberjack husband. I got him this stunning, luxury watch (pictured below). This came in a beautiful wooden box that smelled like cedar. We also received oil and cloth with our box so that we can keep the watch looking nice! Andrew loves maintenance so that’s perfect! They had all kinds of different styles and woods to choose from. I wanted to make sure my husband LOVED it so I let him help pick it out before I ordered. Usually he is quick to make decisions like this but he had such a fun time browsing Jord’s variety. As I was helping him browse I realized that they also make gorgeous watches for women and I feel like Mama deserves one too! I might have to pick one out and treat myself. I have been eyeing up this Purpleheart beauty. 😊

As new parents, it is so nice to enjoy an accessory other than baby spitup and boogers! There was something about Andrew putting on the watch that made me go back to our dating days where we were so enamored with each other and always wanted to look nice for each other. This has inspired us to plan an upcoming date night and I requested that Andrew wear his new Jord watch and a splash of beard oil!

If you are tired parents or have been married for so long that you don’t “do Valentine’s day” anymore…well stop it because that’s lame! Keep the flame alive and invest in each other! Yes, it’s true that orchestrating a date night once you have kids takes extra work, but it is so important to continuously work on your relationship. Get your special someone a beautiful watch from Jord. They even do customized engraving, so you can make it extra special. Engravable watches make a perfect, thoughtful gift for any occasion.

Jord Watches – The Perfect Gift!

As I mentioned before, Jord has an enormous variety of personalized watches for both men and women. They have exotic woods to choose from such as purpleheart, bamboo, zebrawood and more! When you browse their website, you can chat with REAL humans who will help you with your shopping! They can help guide you to what you are looking for and what you need to decide before placing your order. How great is that kind of service? They also offer free shipping worldwide and they make it easy to get help with exchanges or repairs. Some companies make it SO hard to contact them for help, but they have a help tab right on their website and it is super user friendly! So, if you are browsing for unique men’s watches, look no further because Jord has you covered.


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I always love to learn a little more about how a company got started and what they are all about. I will leave you with this inspiring quote from their About page:


“The value of a watch is not in being able to tell how much time has passed, but in being aware of the need to make that time count. Moments are bigger than minutes and your watch should tell more than time.”

Happy Valentine’s Day to all you love birds!

Wooden Wrist Watch

Marriage Romance


October 16, 2017

In my dating experience, I typically always dated guys my age. Some of my relationships were good, others not so much. There was a common pattern I was noticing in regard to maturity. At a young age, my parents told me it was important to date with the intentions of marriage. So if my relationship came to the point where I felt like I could not marry that person, I moved on.

At age 23 I was graduated from college, had a great corporate job and was feeling ready for those next steps to share my life with someone. I just needed that someone. Then I met Andrew.

Andrew is 7 years older than me. I remember wondering if that was too big of an age gap. I had never dated anyone that much older than me. I think his friends or brothers cracked a few jokes at him about how his girlfriend was so “young”. I remember flashing my little Grinch-like smirk and thinking about what their perception of me must have been. They didn’t know I was debt-free, paying my own bills and making a decent salary. They didn’t know how ready I was to be a wife and settle down. I felt pretty mature for my age at the time!

Here are the reasons I LOVED dating an older man:

  1. Experience – get your mind out of the gutter. I mean life experience. At age 31, he had already purchased and sold properties, knew a ton about home/auto maintenance and was also debt-free (once he sold his condo). He also helped me get my first credit card!
  2. A Man that knows what he wants – Finally! A man who also wanted to get married and settled down! He knew exactly what he wanted in a wife and said I was it! 😊
  3. Ready for babies – Once we got married we were able to talk about our future children. Since he was older, he was ready to start a family. We did take 3 years to strengthen our marriage and enjoy each other which was AWESOME. So glad we did this because having children definitely impacts your marriage.
  4. Established in his career – He was done with school and had a number of years in the IT world under his belt
  5. Awesome Movie Recommendations – This one is silly but seriously, I had never seen Star Wars and Andrew was shocked. We had a movie marathon and I couldn’t believe I had missed out for so long! WAAAAAAAAAGH – *Chewbacca’s voice* He also introduced me to a bunch of other classics (Back to the Future, The Goonies, etc.)

*Bonus Reason* Older men are more likely to have awesome beards. Well, maybe that’s not true but Andrew said he didn’t grow his beard until his mid twenties. I have seen him without a beard and it’s weird! He looks way younger. I like his older, sophisticated beard look 🙂 Did you know that beard oil is a thing? Andrew got one as a gift and then he bought two more! The Gentlemen’s beard oil below is unscented. Andrew also has one called “Dirt” (no joke, it smells like beets) and one called “Date Night” which I really like!

Andrew has beyond exceeded my expectations of what a good husband should be. I sometimes wish I would have met him sooner in life but timing is everything right? I believe we were brought together at the exact right time in our lives. I love his maturity when it comes to taking care of me, baby boy and our home. Not sure what I did to deserve this wonderful life.

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